More frequent than not, people do not understand what parents go through, in particular, when the loss of child occurs outside the home. There are so many judgmental comments made concerning how parents should react to a loss of a child. There are so many outside voices frowning on parents who initiate civil lawsuit when their children died at the hands of another. Unless you experience this type of loss, you cannot understand what these parents go through. Hence, it is best to step back and allow parents dealing with a death of a child cope with the situation in the manner that they believe to be appropriate, even if that means filing a lawsuit against the responsible party.
Imagine going through your daily routine, doing the laundry and running errands, to receive the call. How about going to the school to pick up your child, or going home to find out that your child is not there because he died. Of course, the first reaction is that of doubt. When they said someone died they certainly did not mean your child. Therefore, as the parent shakes his or her head refusing to believe the person relaying the sad news, repeating what the parent in shock refuses to acknowledge. The child is gone. It was an accidental death and it should not have happened but it did.
The news finally hits the parent and the loud scream, the wrenching cry projects outside the lungs. The child was gone never to come back. Never to hear his sweet voice, never to see or hug the child you nurtured and loved. As the account of the death unfolds you sit listening with disbelief, wondering how could this happen. The loss of the life cannot go so wrong. When the mental calculation of what happened hits the reasoning skills the realization of wrongful death keeps playing repeatedly a mental picture that turns into rage. Someone will pay.
Someone has to pay. Someone must be held accountable for the death of your innocent child. However, filing a lawsuit is not as straightforward as many believe. Every state has its own regulation and how best to move forward can be as complicated as how best not to move forward. The grieving process will cloud the appropriate actions and or questions as parents work through a traumatic occurrence. How can a parent deal with the wrongful death of a child?